7 things your psychologist would like you to know

 The need for therapy does not mean that you are "crazy" ... You should not be ashamed to ask for help for fear that others will think of you as the first and basic rule.

Going to a psychologist used to be considered a taboo subject, but now it is quite normal.

When you have a problem, you should definitely seek help, because it is your psychologist who may know the secret to how to recover.

You need to relax in the process and build a relationship of trust with your psychologist. That's the key to getting the most out of your sessions.

Things your psychologist would like you to know:

The need for therapy does not mean that you are "crazy"

Therapy is a way to learn to deal better with your feelings and thoughts in a more effective way, says California psychologist and author Tina B. Tessina.

There should be no shame about mental health, whether you are diagnosed with depression or something else. You should not be ashamed to ask for help for fear that others will think of you.

You are stronger than you think

"Clients often see their weaknesses and the things they fail to do, but I see how much they struggle to carry out their daily activities and I see strengths in them.

The metaphor I use is that they are trying to go straight with a 100 kg backpack and I do not think they are thin. "Sometimes I help them realize that I know how much strength they need to get through the day," said Dr. Tesina.

Things can get better

"Sometimes I just want my clients to know that things can get better. An important concept in dealing with emotional pain is to get rid of the hopelessness that overwhelms them after a period of fighting the pain and finding no relief or improvement. "But they should not give up because I see clients whose improvement comes only after a few years."

But your psychologist can not "fix" you

The worst assumption is that psychologists can "fix" clients. Instead, there should be a partnership between the therapist and the client and it only works if both parties are actively involved in the process.

Psychologists know how to walk on the field but can not carry clients on their backs. The client must work and be part of the journey.

No topic is allowed

A good psychologist will make you trust him and feel like telling him absolutely everything.

Psychologists struggle too

A psychologist is an imperfect person with strengths and weaknesses, just like you.

"As a psychologist, I can tell the client how I feel, while I am in chaos and trying to sort out my life," says Tessina.

No, your psychologist will not judge you

If you are very critical of yourself, it will be difficult for you to understand that your psychologist will not judge you, even when you tell the most intimate secrets.

"It is most difficult for me to convince clients to believe that I am not judging them, as they judge themselves. "I do not want them to feel ashamed in front of me."